In my experience, when I was deeply hurt by other people it always brought a transformative power into my life. Growing up is always a matter of trial and error in order to learn your boundaries and the world limits. That means that there is a lot of changing and moulding happening in life and it doesn’t come easy!
There are no life teachers as far as I know that can prepare you for the roller coaster of growing up; you just have to go out on stage and dance… The biggest changes happened to me through heartbreaks of many sorts, during the healing time that followed them.

The healing period is a very important time that lasts quite long where you don’t just put yourself back together, but also make room for a change in the process. What results after this transformation is a bettered version of yourself, where you have acquired new powers and can now confront certain situations that you didn’t know before. It’s similar to a vaccination process.
Also for what I can tell, the experience of healing is a personal experience: it’s you dealing with it on your own, at your time. Nobody can find a solution for you. It takes time because is your own process that needs to take place, so better to embrace it as much as you can.
It doesn’t feel good when you are in that time of healing, because it usually involves quite a bit of pain and suffering, and it’s hard to get through it. But the transformation is necessary and the gain is worth it.

“The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it…”
― Nicholas Sparks, At First Sight

“Even the smallest shift in perspective can bring about the greatest healing.”
― Joshua Kai, The Quantum Prayer: An Inspiring Guide to Love, Healing, and Creating the Best Life Possible